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Blogocentric Formulations #1088673 added May 4, 2025 at 1:24am
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Small Tribes
Prompt #42: When it comes to friends, do you prefer a few ride-or-dies, or many casual acquaintances?
I've always been the kind of person who appreciates the depth of some friendship more than the breadth of many friendships. I'm someone who gets along well with just about everybody, and I'm certainly happy to have casual friendships with anyone who's interested in one, but I often find myself gravitating toward investing heavily in a handful of friendships and having those deep relationships comprise most of my socialization.
When I was a teenager, I hung out with the same group of friends throughout high school. We went to each other's birthday parties, played D&D together, and went to each other's houses to hang out after school regularly. We mostly lost touch when everybody moved away for college, but I could count my good friends on my fingers and everyone else was just an acquaintance.
In film school, it was the same way. There were three or four other people in my film program that I really bonded with and we spent all our time helping one another with our assignments, short films etc. Similar to the high school group, we lost touch after graduation... but there was a period of a few years where this friend group was my entire world.
Rinse and repeat for pretty much every job I've ever had. When we're working together, I find some office friends who I get really close to and we're each other's ride-or-dies through the trials and tribulations of the working world. We inevitably lose touch once one of us moves on to another job, and when the person moving on is me, then I find a new friend group at the new job.
There have only been a handful of people who have stuck through these transitions, and it's often a challenge to make time to see them. I suppose that's the difficulty of being a working parent; it's hard to make time for adult friendships when there's a million other things going on between work life and family life and all that stuff.
All that said, I am a fairly social person with a lot of varied interests, so I definitely have a lot of casual acquaintances that slot into one area of my life but not the entire thing. I have my friends that I can talk about Formula 1 with, my friends that I can play D&D with, my friends that I go to church with, my friends that I hang out with here on Writing.com, etc. The interesting thing is that almost all of those groups of friends are numbered at about half a dozen or less, at least in terms of the people that I proactively seek out and work hard to prioritize maintaining a relationship with (as opposed to just being friendly with one another). I can't think of anywhere in my life where I have dozens and dozens of friends that I engage with. I suppose the closest would actually be this community on Writing.com, where I'm involved enough that I cross paths with a lot of different people, day-in, day-out.
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