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My name is Joy, and I love to write.
Why poetry, here? Because poetry uplifts its writer, and if she is lucky enough, her readers, too. Around us, so many objects abound to write about. Once a poet starts with a smallest, most trivial object, he shall discover that his pen will spill out what is most delicate or most majestic hidden inside him. Since the classics sometimes dealt with lofty subjects with a lofty language, a person with poetry in his soul may incline to emulate that. That is understandable. Poetry does that to a person: it enlarges the soul and gives it wings. Yet, to really soar, a poet needs to take off from the ground.
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Everyday Canvas #909801 added April 24, 2017 at 9:21pm Restrictions: None
Anger and Shame Can Go Together
Prompt: Do you think that shame can be a trigger for anger? How?
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I think it could be, although it may not be detectable as some people direct the anger inward compared to those who show it outwardly.
Anger due to shame is possible because shame involves a negative look at oneself either from the point of being judged or from the point of judging oneself. In either case, the feeling is uncomfortable, and anger surfaces as the result of this discomfort.
Everyone may feel shame sometimes, but it may not overwhelming or toxic, usually. When shame is magnified, however, the energy to protect oneself may easily exhibit itself as anger.
It gets even worse when a person experiences shame in his or her whole being, rather than when the shame is focused on a certain aspect or behavior. It is important for grownups and all people not to blame or embarrass a kid or any other person as a whole, on account of one specific behavior. For example, "You just tripped over that thing on the floor" is addressing a specific aspect, whereas "You're so clumsy. You always trip over things," involves a whole being.
Toxic shame may be created as the result of neglect or physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, too. In such cases, anger may turn inward or burst out suddenly wrapping itself around the person’s entire being or show up as unhealthy perfectionism or being argumentative and controlling. In extreme cases, the angry person can become destructive and a threat to others.
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