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Blogocentric Formulations

Logocentric (adj). Regarding words and language as a fundamental expression of an external reality (especially applied as a negative term to traditional Western thought by postmodernist critics).

Sometimes I just write whatever I feel like. Other times I respond to prompts, many taken from the following places:

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10 Most Recent Blog Comments:

Jayne

about 14 hours ago
In response to "The Good and The Bad"

I skipped a full grade based solely on my reading/writing skills, and it should never happened. My math remained behind my peers for my entire life.

Also, I'm way better at fixing/adapting ideas than I am at consistently generating my own. Maybe we should swap stories lol

Witchy Woman

about 15 hours ago
In response to "The Good and The Bad"

I miss those days, I enjoyed my English and History classes, math I struggled with especially Algebra. Apparently I retained enough I tested out of it when I went to college after my divorce.

Stik to My Own Beat

about 15 hours ago
In response to "The Good and The Bad"

I did not get the luxury of dropping classes in high school thanks to the IB schedule. Of course, this meant that I took Algebra I in the fall semester of my freshman year and followed that immediately with Algebra II in the spring. The IB schedule format means I had to pass both of those classes in order to proceed. Thankfully, I did (although Algebra II was an uphill battle). It was still better than geometry, though, mostly because my geometry teacher straight up admitted to struggling to teach geometry due to being better at trig. Good times.

Jeff

a day ago
In response to "Writing Retreat"

Jayne

- You and I can enjoy the cozy cottage on the lake environment while those who prefer to camp can sleep on the ground in a tent and use a bathroom they have to dig themselves. LOL

Ren~Busy as Usual

Sep 21, 2025 at 12:33am
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

Well said on all points. The world is a different place than it was 50 years ago and not bad, some good. But lately? Scary.

Witchy Woman

Sep 20, 2025 at 9:05pm
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

I agree that they'll go for Fallon and Myers next. The mud slinging has gone unchecked since Clinton was in office and has escalated to the point that situations are becoming dangerous for anyone not agreeing with cheeto.

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Seffi

Sep 20, 2025 at 8:02pm
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

"Second Amendment's guaranteed right to bear arms is not the same thing as guaranteed right to assemble an unchecked, unaccountable armory that would make a Navy SEAL envious." That made me laugh. And I agree. Though I am an outsider, looking at the US like a fishbowl - everything looks slightly distorted and confusing, but is also vaguely familiar.

Charity Marie - <3

Sep 20, 2025 at 7:07pm
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

What an interesting trifecta. The one that resonated with me most was the last one so it's the one I'm going to respond to because it's directly relevant to my life, especially right now. You could say I'm "sacrificing" for my relationship. If you know the history, it started as a FWB (friends with benefits) and a hard-boundary of nothing serious. But I'm relationship-oriented. I don't do anything shallowly - I'm just not wired that way. I like commitment - there's something about it that resonates in my nervous system and my bones. Out of 8 billion people, it's that person who says, "I see you. I value you above all others - now or future". It's experiencing life at a deeper level than you can with just friends. It's BATTLING through life together.

For the last year, the FWB relationship has worked because I was working on myself and dating casually, just living life. Eventually I reached a point of just wanting more in my life. Wanting a life partner. So I explored that with him to which he basically said he wanted to stay single forever. Okay, understood. You are another emotionally unavailable man. Noted. Moving on - no harm, no foul. I transitioned it to "friends without benefits" to open up room in my life for a life partner. My idea was to use a matchmaking service - because maybe someone could discern through the bullshit better than I could when they see it every day. Hoping someone would have a more attuned radar to pre-screen out garbage better than apps.

Except, when I mentioned it to him he kind of froze and said, "But what about me?" Then it all changed. We've been carefully, like two battle-scarred generals, navigating it ever since. Successfully I might add despite a misunderstanding that could have derailed the whole thing but actually made us stronger. He told me he'd known for a while that if he were in a better place in life, I would be someone he would want more with. Which floored me because I never even allowed my mind to go there. I labeled him very concretely as "boy toy" and "no feelings" except friendship. That's exactly where it stayed because I can compartmentalize like that unlike other people. I'm an INTJ - half computer, half human. LOL Which brings me to the sacrifice part: we've chosen to wait. Because he's living with a roommate and has a one year lease he doesn't want to break (unless he has to because of the roommate). He's trying to financially get on his feet as well as do some healing of his own.

I get it - there's work to do. I'm further along in my self-growth than he is but was just laid off two months ago so now I'm starting over in a rebuilding phase. So I'm simply waiting for him to catch up and for my own life to restabilize as someone self-employed. The sacrifice is waiting from now until up to one year for his lease to end before we can be together the way we really want. That's when the REAL relationship work begins.

We're doing some of it now - communicating, navigating it all, getting together regularly. It's almost like a long distance relationship because he lives/works 40 minutes away. So when you talk about sacrifice - that hit me pretty hard. But also reassured me because I've never been someone who shied away. I have grit and resilience. It's other people matching me that's been the problem. But finally, I found someone who is and does. So your post gave me hope and reassurance I'm right where I'm supposed to be. Thank you!

Annette

Sep 20, 2025 at 12:12am
In response to "Watch List - August 2025"

Jayne

and Jeff

Include me please.

Jeff

Sep 20, 2025 at 12:02am
In response to "Watch List - August 2025"

Jayne

- Any time you want to arrange a Zoom viewing party, I'm in!

October 19, 2009 at 3:16pm

#672431

Monday Whining

So I normally try not to do this, but it's a particularly unpleasant Monday (and it's only noon!), and I feel the need to gripe and whine for a little while. So feel free to skim, skip or otherwise ignore this post if you wish.

There's been a change in management at our apartment building. The on-site manager has "renegotiated" his arrangement with the owner, which - to make a long story short - essentially means that he now only does some repairs and maintenance work. What that translates into for me is that now, instead of calling the on-site manager and having him come over and fix my backed up garbage disposal the same day (any day), it now takes four days of e-mailing and calling the owner's office in order to schedule a maintenance visit by the on-site manager for business hours only.

So I take the earliest available appointment this morning... 10 AM. That's okay, my job is usually pretty flexible and I'll just stay a little late today. At 10:30 AM the on-site manager comes in, looks at the garbage disposal for a couple seconds and says, "Oh, I don't do those repairs anymore. We outsource that now. I can have the guy out here between 2 PM and 5 PM."

Great. My commute to work is roughly an hour and a half each way, so by the time I got there, I'd pretty much have to turn around and go back. So I e-mail my boss and say that I'll be working from home today, I have my laptop and all my files, I'm just waiting for maintenance men, etc. Basically, I may not be in the office, but I'm still going to be working. Nine times out of ten, this isn't a problem. But today, I get that rare ten percent e-mail that says if I'm out of the office, I have to use a vacation day. Not the news I really wanted to hear, but that's okay... I've got plenty of vacation days saved up, so I take one.

Then I get another work e-mail thirty minutes later about a problem with the phones. They want me to help walk them through fixing it from home. I kindly explained that they forced me to take a vacation day rather than allowing me to work from home, so since I have to use my own personal time, I shouldn't have to be on-call for work issues and I would be happy to resolve it when I'm back in the office tomorrow. Apparently, that's not how it works... I need to take the personal day and deduct it from my paid time off... but I also need to be working from home to fix this problem.

So what am I doing today? I'm sitting at home, waiting for the maintenance guy to come and fix my broken garbage disposal and backed up sink, so I can do the nasty dishes that have been sitting out for four days. While I wait to do that, I'm working just as hard as I usually do (even harder actually, since I'm trying to walk my technologically illiterate colleagues through the steps to fix the problem)... and for all of that, I get the privilege of being docked one vacation day in return.

Happy Monday, everyone. Who's ready for the weekend?

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October 19, 2009 at 2:08am

#672351

Halloween Fun

My wife and I have decided to get out of the apartment and do something fun for Halloween. It's her first year of teaching full-time, so we haven't quite had the time to plan out costumes and find a party to attend... so instead, we've decided to attend a murder mystery dinner theater/cruise on Halloween night out on the open seas of Southern California.

I attended one mystery dinner theater with my parents when I was much younger and remember it being a lot of fun. Especially since I won the prize for guessing who the murderer was!

I'm really looking forward to participating in one again, especially since this one is an interactive dinner where some of the actors are mixed in with the other dinner guests, so nobody knows who's a part of the show and who's just dining.

Anyone else attended one of these events? If so, what did you think of the experience?

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