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Blogocentric Formulations

Logocentric (adj). Regarding words and language as a fundamental expression of an external reality (especially applied as a negative term to traditional Western thought by postmodernist critics).

Sometimes I just write whatever I feel like. Other times I respond to prompts, many taken from the following places:

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Ren~Busy as Usual

about 8 hours ago
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

Well said on all points. The world is a different place than it was 50 years ago and not bad, some good. But lately? Scary.

Witchy Woman

about 11 hours ago
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

I agree that they'll go for Fallon and Myers next. The mud slinging has gone unchecked since Clinton was in office and has escalated to the point that situations are becoming dangerous for anyone not agreeing with cheeto.

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Seffi

about 13 hours ago
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

"Second Amendment's guaranteed right to bear arms is not the same thing as guaranteed right to assemble an unchecked, unaccountable armory that would make a Navy SEAL envious." That made me laugh. And I agree. Though I am an outsider, looking at the US like a fishbowl - everything looks slightly distorted and confusing, but is also vaguely familiar.

Charity Marie - <3

about 13 hours ago
In response to "Free Speech, Gettin' Raptured, & People Worth Suffering For"

What an interesting trifecta. The one that resonated with me most was the last one so it's the one I'm going to respond to because it's directly relevant to my life, especially right now. You could say I'm "sacrificing" for my relationship. If you know the history, it started as a FWB (friends with benefits) and a hard-boundary of nothing serious. But I'm relationship-oriented. I don't do anything shallowly - I'm just not wired that way. I like commitment - there's something about it that resonates in my nervous system and my bones. Out of 8 billion people, it's that person who says, "I see you. I value you above all others - now or future". It's experiencing life at a deeper level than you can with just friends. It's BATTLING through life together.

For the last year, the FWB relationship has worked because I was working on myself and dating casually, just living life. Eventually I reached a point of just wanting more in my life. Wanting a life partner. So I explored that with him to which he basically said he wanted to stay single forever. Okay, understood. You are another emotionally unavailable man. Noted. Moving on - no harm, no foul. I transitioned it to "friends without benefits" to open up room in my life for a life partner. My idea was to use a matchmaking service - because maybe someone could discern through the bullshit better than I could when they see it every day. Hoping someone would have a more attuned radar to pre-screen out garbage better than apps.

Except, when I mentioned it to him he kind of froze and said, "But what about me?" Then it all changed. We've been carefully, like two battle-scarred generals, navigating it ever since. Successfully I might add despite a misunderstanding that could have derailed the whole thing but actually made us stronger. He told me he'd known for a while that if he were in a better place in life, I would be someone he would want more with. Which floored me because I never even allowed my mind to go there. I labeled him very concretely as "boy toy" and "no feelings" except friendship. That's exactly where it stayed because I can compartmentalize like that unlike other people. I'm an INTJ - half computer, half human. LOL Which brings me to the sacrifice part: we've chosen to wait. Because he's living with a roommate and has a one year lease he doesn't want to break (unless he has to because of the roommate). He's trying to financially get on his feet as well as do some healing of his own.

I get it - there's work to do. I'm further along in my self-growth than he is but was just laid off two months ago so now I'm starting over in a rebuilding phase. So I'm simply waiting for him to catch up and for my own life to restabilize as someone self-employed. The sacrifice is waiting from now until up to one year for his lease to end before we can be together the way we really want. That's when the REAL relationship work begins.

We're doing some of it now - communicating, navigating it all, getting together regularly. It's almost like a long distance relationship because he lives/works 40 minutes away. So when you talk about sacrifice - that hit me pretty hard. But also reassured me because I've never been someone who shied away. I have grit and resilience. It's other people matching me that's been the problem. But finally, I found someone who is and does. So your post gave me hope and reassurance I'm right where I'm supposed to be. Thank you!

Annette

a day ago
In response to "Watch List - August 2025"

Jayne

and Jeff

Include me please.

Jeff

a day ago
In response to "Watch List - August 2025"

Jayne

- Any time you want to arrange a Zoom viewing party, I'm in!

Jayne

a day ago
In response to "Watch List - August 2025"

I've had K-Pop on my list for a while. Nobody wants to watch it with me lol

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Jayne

Sep 15, 2025 at 8:57pm
In response to "Writing Retreat"

This sounds lovely.

I'm always one to ask, by cabin (or camp), do you mean shack in the woods or cottage on the lake? I am too old for the former lol

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S 🤦

Sep 15, 2025 at 1:24am
In response to "Writing Retreat"

Here's my last one:
"20240405 Writing Retreat"

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Kåre เลียม Enga

Sep 15, 2025 at 1:22am
In response to "Writing Retreat"

I need quiet, connections, solitude and fellow writers. I went to weekend events in Listowel, Ireland in 2015 and Georgetown, Malaysia in 2024.

Tulsa though... weekly connection works best for me. Covid killed what I had here in Montana. I make do; but, I think I'd do better elsewhere.

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July 27, 2012 at 8:29pm

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Vacation

My wife and I booked an impromptu end-of-summer vacation. We haven't traveled anywhere in a while, so we figured we should squeeze in a trip before she goes back to grad school and teaching in the fall. We looked online and ended up getting a killer deal for a 5-night stay in Washington, DC. It's a city we've never visited before and it's on our short list of places we'd love to see, so we're very excited.

For anyone who lives in DC or knows their way around, any suggestions on things to do or see while we're there? We're already planning on doing the normal touristy stuff (Capitol, White House, Smithsonian, National Mall, Library of Congress, etc.), but if anyone has any suggestions for little known gems (especially restaurants), please let us know!

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