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My name is Joy, and I love to write. Why poetry, here? Because poetry uplifts its writer, and if she is lucky enough, her readers, too. Around us, so many objects abound to write about. Once a poet starts with a smallest, most trivial object, he shall discover that his pen will spill out what is most delicate or most majestic hidden inside him. Since the classics sometimes dealt with lofty subjects with a lofty language, a person with poetry in his soul may incline to emulate that. That is understandable. Poetry does that to a person: it enlarges the soul and gives it wings. Yet, to really soar, a poet needs to take off from the ground. Kiya's gift. I love it!
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"Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself."
CHARLIE CHAPLIN


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Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
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anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
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This is my supplementary blog in which I will post entries written for prompts.

October 5, 2015 at 2:15pm
October 5, 2015 at 2:15pm
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Prompt: Being hard on yourself/ Write about the ways you are hard on yourself and the ways you aren’t. Were you always the same with this approach or did it change over the years?

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I am hard on myself when I have to break a promise. I try not to lie and be 100% moral, at least be what I consider as moral, but then, life and the people in it throw a challenge on my way and I either have to sidestep it or come up with a white lie or an excuse; then, I am hard on myself. Also sometimes, I say something unknowingly or harshly that might hurt a person. When I realize what escaped me, I am not too happy with myself.

It used to be I would be very angry with myself when I didn’t cover an area fully, didn't quite finish what I was supposed to do, or missed on or forgot some knowledge within my expertise. Now, in contrast, I cut myself some slack if I forget some things and do not do everything as well as I originally planned to do. This is probably because either I grew old and accepted my aging or WdC trained me, or both. *Laugh*

Truth is, I used to be a perfectionist practically in all areas of my life but only with my own actions and with what I tried to produce. I tried not to push my perfectionism on the people in my life, with emphasis on the word tried. Now I find that perfectionism doesn’t translate well into old age, so I don’t expect it from myself or from anyone else.

I guess, over the years, I have learned to accept what I cannot change, and in the process, I noticed that life is pretty amazing, despite the bumps on our paths and our own inconsistencies; therefore, I am now enjoying what I can do, be it faulty or imperfect, and I do not beat myself up when I take a misstep.


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