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About This Author
My name is Joy, and I love to write.
Why poetry, here? Because poetry uplifts its writer, and if she is lucky enough, her readers, too. Around us, so many objects abound to write about. Once a poet starts with a smallest, most trivial object, he shall discover that his pen will spill out what is most delicate or most majestic hidden inside him. Since the classics sometimes dealt with lofty subjects with a lofty language, a person with poetry in his soul may incline to emulate that. That is understandable. Poetry does that to a person: it enlarges the soul and gives it wings. Yet, to really soar, a poet needs to take off from the ground.
 
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Everyday Canvas
"Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself."
CHARLIE CHAPLIN
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn
anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
is too small for you.
David Whyte
This is my supplementary blog in which I will post entries written for prompts.
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Prompt: Some people apologize for everything, whether an apology is needed or not. When and under which conditions, do you think, an apology should be necessary?
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Where we need to apologize is simply where an apology is necessary: That is, where and when we know we have been wrong and have wronged or harmed someone or something such as an institution. If we keep apologizing, yet keep doing the same thing, that apology is a sham. It is also baseless to use an apology to fortify an excuse or an alibi. As Benjamin Franklin said, “Never ruin an apology with an excuse.”
An apology is a serious thing and it shouldn’t be taken lightly. I know someone who starts her objections with a, “Excuse me but…” whenever she disagrees with a certain notion. It is a useless way of using speech, same as saying “you know” with each statement. Why should anyone apologize for her or his difference of opinion? Wouldn’t just saying, “I think differently,” "I disagree," or "In my opinion..." be enough?
In the same category are the expressions used by people who need to explain and justify every decision and action they take. Although they are excuses and not direct apologies and at times they may be necessary, more often than not, they just waste the explainer’s energy. I am talking about expressions such as:
“What I was trying to do was…”
“You have me wrong; what I meant was…”
“What I wanted to really say…”
Then, where should we not apologize? First and the simplest answer is: When we are not sorry, and for what is the truth. Truth of us and for what we believe in. We don’t need to apologize for our feelings, dreams, lifestyle, the way we live, our appearance, our religious, sexual, or political preferences, our relationships, and all our values and purposes; in short, for our personal choices and priorities.
On the other hand, a heartfelt apology can help repair any relationship or wrongdoing; although the machos like John Wayne may say in a movie, “Never apologize, mister, it’s a sign of weakness.” Just when anyone is so great, important, and proud that they can’t offer a humble and sincere apology to someone they have hurt?
An apology should be based on the truth that it carries with it, and I believe, most of the time, a sincere apology shows an impeccable character in a highly evolved human being.
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